First Touch vs. First Look- A Pro's Perspective

In recent years, brides have been straying away from "traditional" wedding options, and many of the superstitions are going out the door, too! Most of my brides opt for either a "first look" or a "first touch" with their groom before their Ceremony, so let's talk about it!

A "first touch" involves the bride and groom (fully dressed and ready for the Ceremony) holding hands but not seeing one another. My sweet sister, Hayli, was kind enough to let me use her wedding as an example of a classic "first touch." Wasn't she a beautiful bride?! Notice how the couple stands together without being able to see one another.

Fun Fact: These two had the first public wedding at The School House Venue in Travelers Rest, SC!

While a "first touch" gives you a beautiful photo opportunity (and perhaps a chance to exchange heartfelt notes and calm your jitters by hearing your future spouse's voice), it still keeps some of the mystery and excitement of the dress reveal alive for the Ceremony.

I recommend a "first touch" when:

• The timeline isn't hurried

• You have ample photography time

• The Cocktail Hour length can be extended if needed

• You have an average Bridal Party size (fewer than 10 Bridesmaids/Groomsmen)

• You have an average extended family size

• You would prefer not to see each other before the Ceremony

I've found that more traditional brides love this approach, especially when the motivation is maximum Groom reaction when she's walking down the aisle.

That said, there's a LOT more you can do with your photographer if you opt for a "first look," instead. A "first look" typically involves the groom turned around backwards and the bride walking forward, tapping him on the shoulder, and him turning around to see his future wife in all her glory! This is such a sweet, intimate moment and offers the couple a chance to be together prior to the Ceremony and the commotion and celebration of the day. It's a moment to slow down and be together. Typically, it's incredibly private-- just the couple, the photographer, and maybe the Wedding Coordinator--while the rest of the family/bridal party is kept away. Some couples opt to have private vows or a moment of prayer together during this moment.

One of my beautiful brides, Rachel, with her husband, Andy.

When you have a "first look," you can jump directly into Bridal Party or full family pictures before the Ceremony because the Groom already knows what you look like! For this reason, I HIGHLY recommend doing a "first look" if you have:

• A large Bridal Party (more than 10 Bridesmaids/Groomsmen total)

• A large extended family

• Limited photographer hours (6 hours or fewer where getting ready pictures were prioritized)

• A tight timeline with no Cocktail Hour wiggle room

• Anxiety that you know your future spouse will calm with their presence

Channing, one of my May brides, having a "first look." Notice the bride is tapping the Groom's shoulder (right before the big reveal).

Some couples also appreciate the fact that doing a "first look" provides a natural picture break. If you or your spouse don't enjoy pictures, having a break in the middle of the flow of them can be advantageous.

One of my October couples at Gaines Lodge at Table Rock sharing a private moment for their "first look."

There's no right or wrong way to go about planning out your Wedding Day! Whatever feels like the right choice for the both of you is exactly what you should do! Looking for more insight like this from a pro with wedding logistical acumen? Reach out today for your Free Consultation!!

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